Parental Journal 22 from Planet Elderly: Uneasy Time Away in Missouri

September 11, 2015 evening

I’ve been home in mid-MO for a few weeks. At first I felt numb because not only did I have elderly parents in northern Illinois, I had other family members with drama going on here in Missouri, and all I could do was sleep a lot, spend a bit of time with gal pals, and wait to see my psychologist. Two visits with my psychologist later, I’m feeling more grounded, but always on edge. I continually expect to receive some emergency call that will take me away from home and back onto Planet Elderly.

Have only spoken to Mom a couple times. She’s doing okay, although I learned from her neighbor, Kevin, that she already had her Oct. 6 eye exam. She was worried about it, called the doctor’s office 15 times, and they agreed to do it a few days ago.

Spoke with her last night. She seemed in a good mood. Later she called me back to see which phone number was mine. Then she talked about not having any money or a bank account of her own, so I reminded her of her bank account situation and she felt better.
Since neighbor Kevin is my angel of sorts, voluntarily checks on Mom frequently and helps her out, I sent him a copy of the book The 36-Hour Day. He called yesterday to thank me. Apparently he’s a bit amazed to read about dementia, memory loss, and Alzheimers.

Was planning to go up to see Mom Oct. 4 because she had that Oct. 6 eye doctor appointment. Now she doesn’t, but she will have an assigned date and time to be on the phone with an adviser to help her transition to a different supplemental health insurance plan. I’ll need to be there at that time. Kevin said the mail with that information has not arrived, but he would keep me posted when it does.

September 14, 2015 8 a.m

Received a call from Kevin. Mom’s cell phone died. It’s a basic flip model from Consumer Cellular. According to Kevin, the battery was bad and he claimed no one makes a replacement battery. Hmmmm. Maybe.

I’ll just get her a replacement phone…same model because it’s familiar to her…get it activated, add some phone numbers I know and then send it to her.

Maybe this week I’ll learn when I’ll be going back up. It depends on the date we’re scheduled to talk to a supplemental health insurance adviser.

I have a gnawing feeling at the pit of my stomach at the thought of going up there. I should feel more compassionate.

About jjmummert

Just another voice in the wilderness from someone who's lived on this planet for over 60 years and faces permanent residency on Planet Elderly. Update: As of March 2, 2017, I turned 70. I'm now an official resident of Planet Elderly. Dad passed away September 22, 2016. I view the Parental Journal entries as part therapy, part family history, sort of a case study of what our family experiences with one parent in a memory care unit, another living independently with short-term memory loss, and me, the only child daughter who lives 400 miles away. It's quite an adventure. Recommended readings for others who have loved ones who live with some form of dementia: The 36-Hour Day, The Myth of Alzheimer's - What You Aren't Being Told About Today's Most Dreaded Diagnosis, Alzheimer's Early Stages.
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One Response to Parental Journal 22 from Planet Elderly: Uneasy Time Away in Missouri

  1. norcalmom says:

    I understand how it is. My 94 year old grandmother only lived 1 hour away, but needed so much help. She fired the help, and so I was driving down there 2x a week to help with the shopping, yard work, Dr.’s appointments etc, all while trying to raise 5 kids and take care of my MIL with dementia who lives with us. I finally had to place my grandmother in a home. I just couldn’t do it anymore. I love her, but it was too much. Hugs to you!!!

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