Parental Journal 62 from Planet Elderly – Another “Dad Wants a Divorce” Delusional Episode

Monday, May 16, 2016  9:30 a.m.

Although it’s good to be back in Missouri, it’s also unsettling.  It’s difficult to adjust after a month at Mom’s and shadowing her schedule.

Arrived back on Saturday, called Mom to let her know I arrived, and had dinner at Bonnie’s.  Did not sleep well Saturday night.  Spent most of Sunday dozing in the recliner, tucked under a throw.  Ah…this is what depression looks like.  But by 1:45 I woke up and felt energized enough to go to the store and do a little gardening.  It was a beautiful day.

This morning Mom called a little after 7:00 a.m.  She wanted me to know that Dad was leaving her.  He said he would pick up his clothes sometime this morning, so she had them on the dining table.  He has another woman.  Just wanted me to know.  Bye.

It’s a delusional episode she has had before.  I didn’t dispute it.  Just empathized a bit…”I don’t know what to say…” that sort of thing.  Then I called Kevin and he said he would go over, check on things, and try to redirect.  He’s been through this before.  He’ll call me later.

My stomach is in a knot.  Chilly, rainy day outside.  Will call Dr. Sheila for some therapy sessions.


9:30 p.m.

Won’t be able to see Dr. Sheila until mid-June, but Kevin’s update later today was interesting.  Apparently Mom waited all day for Dad to come get his things.  Kevin let her live with her story for the day and kept an eye on her, but later he was able suggest that maybe what she thought was real was a dream.  He drove her to see Dad, and Kevin said he and Mom visited with Peggy, the social worker.

As of late this afternoon, Mom was once again considering the idea of trying out an apartment at Dad’s community…independent or assisted living…for a week or two.  She has said that before and within a few hours changed her mind.

We’ll see if there’s any real follow through.  It could be that with me out of the way, Mom might feel more like she is making decisions.  I think she’d like the trial stay because she could visit Dad anytime and she’d have social interactions.

I want her to be safe and I want her to be relatively content.  She is neither living alone.


About jjmummert

Just another voice in the wilderness from someone who's lived on this planet for over 60 years and faces permanent residency on Planet Elderly. Update: As of March 2, 2017, I turned 70. I'm now an official resident of Planet Elderly. Dad passed away September 22, 2016. I view the Parental Journal entries as part therapy, part family history, sort of a case study of what our family experiences with one parent in a memory care unit, another living independently with short-term memory loss, and me, the only child daughter who lives 400 miles away. It's quite an adventure. Recommended readings for others who have loved ones who live with some form of dementia: The 36-Hour Day, The Myth of Alzheimer's - What You Aren't Being Told About Today's Most Dreaded Diagnosis, Alzheimer's Early Stages.
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