Parental Journal 109 from Planet Elderly: Pandemic Window Visit with Mom

Now I See You!

I was thrilled to receive an email from Lenoir Woods, Mom’s long term care community, inviting me to have a window visit with her.  We had had a Zoom visit, but this would be a wonderful opportunity to see her in person…or close enough.

I met Sam, the Assistant Director of Nursing, and she led me to a courtyard area where I could stand outside a window and Mom could be inside a conference room.  Mom’s week day CNA, Ken, was with her and held the phone for her.

Mom and Ken window visit 051720

Photo taken through screened window  1 p.m. May 17, 2020

It was wonderful to see her…and interesting.  She looked at me, smiled, responded a bit to some of my questions, told me she loved me when I told her I loved her, but for the most part she focused on Sam’s nursing attire.  Sam was dressed in a colorful top animated with flowers and other figures.  Mom lit up when she saw it.

I also think she recognized Sam more than she recognized me, but that’s okay.

After admiring Sam’s top, she saw mine and she smiled.  I wore a navy blue tee shirt I know Mom wants to steal from me.  It has a dandelion scattering seeds that are actually hearts.

051720 T shirt pattern mom likes

It was an online purchase and I haven’t seen it offered since.  I was hoping to order one for Mom.  I’m still keeping an eye out for it.

Mom has always loved that design and I was delighted to see that she recognized it.



Mom looked content, and when I asked if she enjoyed lunch she said “this is a good place.”

Her verbal responses are less fluent than they were a couple months ago.  She had more difficulty than I remember creating sentences.  That said, she still tried to be responsive to everything and even laughed a few times.

It was more difficult than I expected not to be able to hug her.


Kudos to the wonderful CNA’s, nurses, dining staff, cooks, housekeeping staff, activities staff, coordinators and administrators at Lenoir Woods.  Their dedication to providing the best care to residents, despite ongoing inconveniences they experience every day, is the reason why Lenoir Woods has such a wonderful reputation here in Columbia, Missouri.

I miss my extended family members in Mom’s neighborhood of Woods Central…the laughter, the teasing, the helpfulness, the concern, the food, the chair exercise classes, the visits from musicians and musical groups…and the hugs.

Hello, World!

The demographics of who has stopped by to check out this simple bog include what countries visitors come from.  How delightful to see that over the years I have had visitors from China, France, Spain, England, Sweden, South Korea and others.

To all I say, thank you for stopping by.  I hope you and your loved ones stay well during this challenging time of the Covid pandemic.  It wonderful to know that scientists from around the world are working to find vaccines and treatments that will work.  It is wonderful to remember that we are all related…one human race that will survive despite some of the idiots who lead some our nations.

And guess who has the dumbest idiot leader?  ME!!

Join hearts, everyone.








About jjmummert

Just another voice in the wilderness from someone who's lived on this planet for over 70 years and faces permanent residency on Planet Elderly. Update: As of March 2, 2017, I turned 70. I'm now an official resident of Planet Elderly. Dad passed away September 22, 2016. In late March 2017 I was able to move Mom closer to me where she resided at a memory care assisted living community until being downsized to a skilled nursing senior community in October 2018 in Columbia, Missouri. I view the Parental Journal entries as part therapy, part family history, sort of a case study of our family's journey with dementia. It's quite an adventure. Recommended readings for others who have loved ones who live with some form of dementia: The 36-Hour Day; the website: ;
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